One day, my husband told me some stories about his family relatives. I was a little surprised but more concerned about some people attempting to commit suicide, my husband’s other uncle committed suicide so long time ago when he was young child, he did not remember how his uncle did this. I had some friends who committed suicide in my High School. And my former husband attempted to commit suicide because he was extremely depressed in the result of losing his joint custody of my son and the divorce. However, that was not my intention to go ahead with the divorce process. He made his decision to file the divorce me by himself. It seemed that he blamed himself for the divorce and the child’s custody. He was tired of paying the the child support, he thought that abandoning my son was the only way to stop paying the child support. Sadly, he felt deeply guilty. One late night, my former husband’s friends texted me about his attempt to suicide, they wanted me to come approach him. Before I was about to leave home, I realized that I had two sons sleeping and I could not leave them unsupervised at home. My choice was to stay home with my two small boys. I could not able to help him since he hurt me emotionally and physically before. A big question was that – was I blamed for that happened to my former husband? No, I did not blame myself for his problem. I was supposed to call the police but his friends stopped me to call the police, they were chicken out that calling the police might not be comfortable. And then, his friends came to stop him quickly before he tried to kill himself and they made him more comfortable for a while. I was relieved that his friends came to rescue him on time and helped him though tough times.
Every day, I watch the local news about suicidal persons including ISIS people suicidal. I do not understand why people in the world want to commit suicide, it is hard time to figure out how this suicidal person behaves. All of us are not blamed for that happen, yet I feel that all people including me and you need to check in with suicidal person before he or she does this. Everyone is partly responsible to notice the warning signs of suicidal person and we must make an emergency call quickly to check on the suicidal person.
12 Warning Signs of Suicidal Person
- Posting the Facebook / Instagram / Twitter status about killing oneself or death.
- Writing the notebook about killing oneself or death.
- Drawing about the death.
- Looking for some ways to kill oneself such as purchasing gun, knife, or ropes.
- Complaining about negative feelings such as painful emotions.
- Getting drugs & alcoholics.
- Oversleeping too long time.
- Lock oneself up in his/her room and hide too long time.
- Feeling insecure or lonely.
- Feeling inattentive or disconnected from his family relatives or friends.
- Texting someone about planning to kill oneself.
- Visiting people or calling them by saying “Good-bye”.
How To Help Suicidal Person
- Call the police to check on him or her. (Be sure that he or she doesn’t need to be locked up)*
- Get someone who is very close to her / him.
- Visit him / her to keep company and open communication.
- Bring him / her to the emergency room for help.
- Check the social media status where he or she posts very often.
- Call a suicidal person to see if he / she would like to go hang out.
- Ask the church pastor to come visit.
- Encourage him or her to join the sports club or social club such as prayer group, 12-Step AA group, book club, or other groups.
Have you noticed any warning signs of that suicidal person? How would you help him or her to stop killing oneself?
Gosh, I did everything I could to stop my brother from committing suicide, but he went and did it anyway. I felt so powerless to stop him. It seems that when Someone has made up their minds about committing suicide they will find a way to commit the act. So sad!
Good thinking. I think we may never know what someone is going through deep down. Thanks for these pointers!
Giving stuff away is also a sign. This kind of death is always painful, the questions never stop and sometimes we always wonder why the person chose to do this.
Oh wow, this is such an informational post. Thank you so much for sharing this. I hope it helps someone 🙂
I think the toughest thing is deciphering between serious intentions and just searching for attention.
This is such a hard topic and you handled it so well. Thank you for sharing your personal understanding with extended family.
These are good to know. My cousin commited suicide. Then about a week later, a relative of his commited suicide. Sometimes it is hard to tell what people are going through.
Your post is a great reminder that everyone should be aware of the emotional states of the ones we love. For those dealing with depression the road can lead to a deep, dark place with dire consequences like suicide. Thank you for listing the warning signs!
There has been times in my life where I fought about ending it all but there was one thing that stopped me and that was the knowledge that I had not completed my life mission on earth yet and it was that and only that that brought me back from the brink of no return.
Getting rid of stuff is definately a sign. When I was about 19 I was driving home and saw my friend’s sister walking down the street. I offered her a ride. We were talking and I asked her where her car was and she said she had just sold it. She also had no idea what she was going to get next. I thought it was strange that someone who could afford to own a car would get rid of one without a plan, so I called her brother (my friend) and told him. He just said she was weird. She slit her wrists that night.
This is essential information to know. By helping a suicidal person you are literally saving their life, it’s such a huge thing x
I think just being with them and listening to them helps. I remember when I was a teen and wanted to kill myself due to my brothers death but was afraid to do it.
Wow! That’s quite a story. To be honest, I don’t know why people think about killing themselves either. It’s something that I can never bring myself to do even if I am at the lowest point of my life. There will always be hope, we just have to help them see it.
Suicide is such a sad thing. Helping someone can be very hard if you are not prepared or even if you have read ways to help. Thank you for this information. I hope this posts helps others as well!
Thank you for sharing this post and the important information.
These are important warning signs to look for.
It’s so good to know the warning signs of suicide. My grandfather committed suicide when my father was a child.
Such a well-written post. thanks for sharing this.
this is a scary reality, but important. thankfully i don’t know anyone who exudes these signs but i’d be sure to stay on top of it if they did.
This is so important and good to know, we all need to watch out for each other.
This is such a tough subject, but one that needs to be discussed.
Helpful and informational post.
This is great information to keep in mind. I’ve never dealt with a suicidal person but I like having the information and knowing the signs to look for.
Thank you for not only posting the warning signs, but how to help.
This is important information. I hope many people read your article and keep it close to heart.
Tough post but very important. I think most people have been impacted by suicide.
sometimes people just need to be hear and to know that there will always be someone there for them =)
whoah! thank you for this post…I have encountered a couple of posts at FB dealing with suicides .
I think visiting him/her is a great advise. That way the person realizes there are people that love him/her
I have an uncle who committed suicide years ago. I was a kid but I remember how badly it affected my grandma (his mom).
Never belittle someone’s depression. Never say its nothing. Never judge. When people say they wanna kill themselves, take it seriously because it could be true and most of the time, it really is.
This is a difficult topic for most people to talk about. You did a great job with your post
Thanks for sharing these tips. This is such a deeply personal topic that affects so many people.
That’s really sad.
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I had a friend go through with it but there werent any warning signs. Or maybe I didnt look hard enough