Last week, my husband and I went to the baby shower at my friend’s mobile. I asked my friend about her husband’s absence in the party. I knew that it was not my business but concerned about my friend and her husband. She mentioned that her husband was in the rehab for awhile since he used some drugs including meth. And he was easily angry with her often at home. She also told me that her divorce was in process but delayed for awhile since she wanted to see if he changed a bit or not. If he had not changed yet, she would have go ahead with the divorce process. I knew that it was not my business, but if I were in her shoes, I would go ahead with the divorce process anyways and stay alive for my kids.
This was a difficult time to see two of them attempting to work things out while being married. I knew that I was there before. I was glad that I got out of my terrible marriage. My friendship with her was meaning a lot to me as it was a huge blessing. I was very thankful that she was very patient person and that she could not wait to become a grandmother.
Now, I am writing a post about 4 warning signs you’re in a dangerous relationship because I want to share this here so you may be realize that your relationship may be dangerous or maybe you have noticed that your friend (or family member) is in a very seriously dangerous relationship.
4 Warning Signs You’re In A Dangerous Relationship
- Anger. It’s a powerful emotion for anyone. Any behavior that is hostile is unhealthy, but actual physical abuse is just one type of aggressive behavior. Any type of physical force is harmful—not only hitting or slapping, but pushing, and grabbing as well. Monstrous behavior toward other people or animals is a sign of anger, that involve hitting, kicking, or throwing objects. Any time you feel frightened or panicked in a relationship, it’s time to get out.
- Control. Any type of controlling behavior in a relationship is unhealthy. Mostly in a controlling relationship, the other person expects you to respect and obey to their expectations of how you should look and behave just like you must be more perfect for the other person. They may show their behavior by claiming they are only trying to help you make good decisions or that they know what’s best for you, but it’s really not about what’s best for you—it’s about their control. They can easily and secretly check your text messages, phone calls, and email to scan your activity. A dangerous controlling behavior is that you have a lack of making a better decision for yourself.
- Jealousy. The behavior that is jealousy is unhealthy. They will tell you that it’s just that they love you so much and worry about you, but jealousy is not about love, it’s about a lack of trust. They may create any false stories or make excuses to stop you from spending time with other people, like by saying they are sick, for example. They may even call or drop by unexpectedly when they check up on you. At first, this behavior might feel like intense love, but that’s not love, that’s a really crazy manic person. Get away from the jealous person. Jealousy is not worth it in your relationship.
- Selfishness. All of us can be selfish from time to time; it’s a necessary part of feelings. Where selfishness becomes a problem is when everything spins around how it affects the person, without their thought for the other person. Selfish people think only of themselves, ignoring or rejecting the feelings of others. They expect you to meet their needs physically and emotionally, not exchanging on their part. They often push you to feel responsible for their happiness and moods. Anytime the person think, caring, and kindness do not flow both ways, let’s end the unhealthy relationship quickly.
If you have not left your significant one, you are wasting your time for this and you may not be worth it for this. That’s not love. If you notice that your friend (or family member) is in dangerous relationship, just make sure that you explain this to the victim about any warning signs of a potentially unhealthy relationship.
I can’t even imagine why anyone would stay in that kind of relationship, but hopefully this helps someone.
Wow, hope this helps some people realize the signs. Thankful to have a healthy and happy relationship to go home to.
It’s important to stay away from toxic relationships because it can ruin you as a person, not even kidding. I think these signs are on point. Thanks for sharing.
These ladies need the help of someone. They are to afraid to leave.
I hope this helps someone. Even when some people know a relationship is not good for them, taking those steps to get away are almost too much. I’ve had friends stuck for ages in bad relationships, even though they knew it wasn’t what was the best thing for them.
I completely agree with the warning signs. Control is the one that i see used most often in relationships my friends are in. I am very vocal with my friends about whether or not i think their relationship is unhealthy. but i am only vocal if they break up but are debating getting back together. normally my thoughts are ignored but i have to say what i think if i think it will help them
Controlling, angered, jealous people that are in relationships also degrade, harm and create the victim to have no self esteem. So Sad
this is really a good post it is very helpful to the ladies. Thanks for sharing this
“Judge not lest ye be judged.” As a survivor of domestic violence, I try not to judge another woman’s decision to stay or try in her relationship. Yes, the warning signs, the red flags are clear to others but we never know what is in the woman’s heart and thoughts. Like any addict, she must come to the realization and decision to leave. I have made the mistake of trying to open friends’ eyes about the toxicity of their relationships only to end up being enemies with them. Today, I tell/share my story and leave others to come to their own decisions, in their own time and after they learn the lesson they need to learn.
I think this is a good idea to go for it. How want to be stuck in a bad relationship which is making them sick. Toxic relationship does one thing cripple you. We need to know the warning signs or teach our young girls so they can know the difference.
These are definite signs not to be ignored! I’d be running for the hills before I got in too deep.
Jealousy is the first problem in relationship. If you got jealous then probably you don’t have trust to your partner. Thank you for sharing this.
These are all very important signs to look for. It is essential that people know when to get out.
I hope this post is able to help someone get out of there harmful relationship. Reminds me of how very blessed I am!
Thank you for sharing your article. I am sure there are a lot of woman out there in a dangerous relationship.
This is a great post! Very good info.
These are all great signs to pay attention to. It’s important for us to look out for our friends.
This is a great resource for people to share with their friends. I hope your friend is okay!
Ughh makes me sad knowing people do stay in these relationships!!! Hopefully this encourages some to leave 🙂
this is incredibly sad – I pray for people in abusive relationships
I hope everything works out for your friend… These are really good signs to keep your relationship healthy.