Last week, my husband and I went to the baby shower at my friend’s mobile. I asked my friend about her husband’s absence in the party. I knew that it was not my business but concerned about my friend and her husband. She mentioned that her husband was in the rehab for awhile since he used some drugs including meth. And he was easily angry with her often at home. She also told me that her divorce was in process but delayed for awhile since she wanted to see if he changed a bit or not. If he had not changed yet, she would have go ahead with the divorce process. I knew that it was not my business, but if I were in her shoes, I would go ahead with the divorce process anyways and stay alive for my kids.
This was a difficult time to see two of them attempting to work things out while being married. I knew that I was there before. I was glad that I got out of my terrible marriage. My friendship with her was meaning a lot to me as it was a huge blessing. I was very thankful that she was very patient person and that she could not wait to become a grandmother.
Now, I am writing a post about 4 warning signs you’re in a dangerous relationship because I want to share this here so you may be realize that your relationship may be dangerous or maybe you have noticed that your friend (or family member) is in a very seriously dangerous relationship.
4 Warning Signs You’re In A Dangerous Relationship
- Anger. It’s a powerful emotion for anyone. Any behavior that is hostile is unhealthy, but actual physical abuse is just one type of aggressive behavior. Any type of physical force is harmful—not only hitting or slapping, but pushing, and grabbing as well. Monstrous behavior toward other people or animals is a sign of anger, that involve hitting, kicking, or throwing objects. Any time you feel frightened or panicked in a relationship, it’s time to get out.
- Control. Any type of controlling behavior in a relationship is unhealthy. Mostly in a controlling relationship, the other person expects you to respect and obey to their expectations of how you should look and behave just like you must be more perfect for the other person. They may show their behavior by claiming they are only trying to help you make good decisions or that they know what’s best for you, but it’s really not about what’s best for you—it’s about their control. They can easily and secretly check your text messages, phone calls, and email to scan your activity. A dangerous controlling behavior is that you have a lack of making a better decision for yourself.
- Jealousy. The behavior that is jealousy is unhealthy. They will tell you that it’s just that they love you so much and worry about you, but jealousy is not about love, it’s about a lack of trust. They may create any false stories or make excuses to stop you from spending time with other people, like by saying they are sick, for example. They may even call or drop by unexpectedly when they check up on you. At first, this behavior might feel like intense love, but that’s not love, that’s a really crazy manic person. Get away from the jealous person. Jealousy is not worth it in your relationship.
- Selfishness. All of us can be selfish from time to time; it’s a necessary part of feelings. Where selfishness becomes a problem is when everything spins around how it affects the person, without their thought for the other person. Selfish people think only of themselves, ignoring or rejecting the feelings of others. They expect you to meet their needs physically and emotionally, not exchanging on their part. They often push you to feel responsible for their happiness and moods. Anytime the person think, caring, and kindness do not flow both ways, let’s end the unhealthy relationship quickly.
If you have not left your significant one, you are wasting your time for this and you may not be worth it for this. That’s not love. If you notice that your friend (or family member) is in dangerous relationship, just make sure that you explain this to the victim about any warning signs of a potentially unhealthy relationship.