Mothers remember that when they gave births to their babies, they were often overjoyed to watch their children growing so fast. Now, mothers are often afraid of watching their teenagers growing too fast through many years. Truthfully, it saddens them to watch their cute, little baby transform into a distant, moody, stranger that they can no longer communicate with. But it doesn’t have to be this way. Mothers should understand that teenagers would like to hang out with their friends, it is very normal. I strongly believe that Mother-Son relationships are important and much needed.
As a mother of two teenage sons, I love my sons but I am often concerned about their well-beings because they are very independent and they love to hang out with their friends. Right now, I have no reasons to be more worried about them. The Lord takes care of them no matter what happens. He stays watching them where they go. One good thing is that I have to find some ways to connect with my two teenage sons.
5 Ways For Mothers To Connect With Teens
- Eat together. Family dinner together at home is more important, because Mothers need to update the recent news with teens from each day.
- Going shopping. Mothers love shopping. Teens love shopping, too! Hanging out at the mall is such so fun, but you are a mother and you need to learn a lot of things about your teens and ask for his/her favorites, or your teens can help you choosing which dress you would like to wear. For example, my young teen son loves Zumiez clothes and I love the GAP clothes. He knows my tastes and I know his tastes, too. We cannot judge nor correct what we like to purchase, the simple fact is that we respect each other.
- Going to the movies. You both love to go to the movies together, your teen can pick one movie at one-time and you can choose another movie for next time. For example, my two teenage sons agree to choose one adventure / action movie at one-time; I choose one family comedy movie for other time.
- Share the skills. You and your teen may have some common skills such as computer, arts, or photography. You both can share a lot of ideas and advices with each other about the skills. For example, my two teen sons and I have a lot of common skills such as computer tech, photography, arts & crafts, and internet.
- Talk one-on-one. Your teens really need you because they feel that talking with you would be very helpful only if they have some problems at school or about the peer pressures. Your teens need your attention because they feel good when you are listening and giving some good advice. For example, my older teen son is complaining about his football team and he is not really happy with the plays which are very complicated. So I listen and give him some advice as I can do my best because I do not know a lot of things about football plays + rules.
One last thing you and your teen need is to say “I love you”. You do not have to worry about the bedroom getting messed up or other problems. Just say, “I love you”. Do you know why? It’s just because.