Do you remember that movie, Practical Magic? Sure, you should have remembered it! Admittedly, I did watch that movie. It did not mean that I practiced witchcraft. SO, it was only movie, ok?
In Practical Magic, Sally Owens and Officer Gary Hallet had their argument over two big serious issues of Jimmy Angelov’s absence and their attraction to each other. However, Officer Gary Hallet said, “All relationships have problems.” Do you agree with that statement?
Yes, that is true…
Before I got married, my boyfriend (my current husband) and I had arguments over very stupid things, but we loved each other. We had many different opinions over the subjects; however, we still loved each other. We had very different personalities, even though we continued to love each other. Today, I am married to my best friend whom I’ve loved. We still have upside-downside arguments over very small things. Of course, my husband and I always love each other in each single day.
Today, all relationships have problems. True be true, because it is true! Nobody’s going to be perfect. Everyone makes mistakes, everyone must learn from their mistakes.
Let’s make some lessons on how to deal with problems in your relationship.
My husband and I have some communication problems due to the lack of our misunderstanding over our topical discussions. Since we are married, we know that effective communication is the key to build our healthy relationship and marriage. We always share our feelings, emotions, love, and opinions in order to build our trust, faith, and love. If we do not have effective communication, our marriage enters into a serious trouble. We trust and love each other as well as we trust and love our Lord.
For your spouse (or your loved one) and yourself, I encourage you both to find some ways to solve some problems and start talking without showing your anger. For some reasons, you two are mature enough to start talking.
I am very happy to open up about sex, but I have some wisdom to keep myself ethical here. So, my husband and I believe that sex is very beautiful human art of physical action and attractive emotion and is a gift from God within the bounds of marriage. It is part of showing passionate desire in the body and emotion. What about sex outside of marriage? Well, I must tell that I disagree with sex outside of marriage. It is not sacred. It is not blessed by God. Having sex outside of the marriage is not ok, because it is not honoring to God’s eyes.
Money does not save your relationship (or your marriage); it is simply paper bills and coins. Come on, the bill is just paper and the coin is only metal. They are not saving your lives, you know. BUT, you need to take some wisdom to handle good money in result of paying the bills, taxes, and other important finances such as rent, debts, and other monthly payments. Most importantly, I encourage that you give the tithes to the church where you go regularly. I believe that God would be happy to see you giving away money for some purposes in the church in order to help keeping the worship service and missionaries going on. For your marriage, God would and will have a wonderful plan for you two.
Oh, yeah… Why should two people need to set their boundaries? Ok, let me tell you something about couple and boundaries. In the short story, my husband and I have separated some kind of our personal boundaries. My husband has some kind of his personal things in his “box” where he keeps in his life. I have some kind of my own personal things separated from him in order to not try to change or cross over our personal boundaries. For example, I would not cross over his personal boundary in order to not violate his independence, because we want to keep ourselves safe. We care about our physical, emotional, spiritual, and mental boundaries. For example, my mother tried to involve herself in our marriage in result of expressing her disrespectful behavior toward us, because she wanted to control us and – our relationship. The same applies, if I wanted to go visit friends, he just lets me go. He just wants to know I’m safe, and that I’m coming home, but other than that, he trusts me completely.
I encourage you two to set up your own personal boundaries. Do not let other people try to overstep your boundaries. Just talk with your spouse (or your loved one) honestly how you feel about violating your personal boundary.
My sweet readers, I am encouraging that you and your spouse (or your loved one) knows that all relationships have problems. Remember that, we all are humans and we are not perfect ones in the world. You two can resolve your own problems together. Love each other. Forgive each other.