One day, my husband and I attended church and listened to our wonderful pastor. After the service, I noticed two young adults sitting together and flirting. I went over to say hi and introduced myself to one of them. Sensing that they were dating, I told him they looked cute together and encouraged them to go out on a date. He was surprised and asked how I knew they had already been on a few dates. I’m not psychic; it was just a gut feeling. He then asked if it was okay for him, at 24, to date a 19-year-old girl and posed a few questions about Christian dating. I answered his questions, which were not very difficult.

5 Things You Should Know About Christian Dating

Look for a person who grows in his/her faith. You don’t need to look for a “perfect” Christian or a “Godly” person to date. Remember, God loves everyone, even sinners. However, it’s important to reflect on your dating choices with God. Don’t assume that dating only church members or attendees is the solution. Instead, seek someone who is serious about their spiritual growth and has a strong relationship with God. Always keep in mind that no one is perfect.
Do not make this so quick to get hitched. Some Christians rush into marriage after knowing each other for only a few days, believing it’s God’s will. While I can’t judge them, I’m happy for those who feel spiritually called to marry and receive God’s blessings. On the other hand, some Christians are meticulous about checking a potential spouse’s qualities and character. In my opinion, this checklist approach doesn’t always work. What’s more important is to evaluate your feelings about the person you’re dating and seek God’s guidance regarding your relationship.
Beware of Social Media. Some Christians believe it’s okay to date online, using social media platforms like Facebook, Snapchat, or Instagram to start virtual relationships. In reality, my friend tried Christian dating online several times and found many profiles with false photos and fake Christians. Eventually, she quit and met someone in person at her church. I encourage you to think carefully and use social media wisely. Avoid flirting or joking with each other online. Ask God to help you resist temptation and maintain integrity in your interactions on social media.
Stay open-minded and build friendship first. Some Christians begin by getting to know each other and building a true friendship before moving on to dating. It’s perfectly fine to take things slowly. Sharing common faith, interests, and values is wonderful! Physical attraction isn’t necessary, as God creates man and woman to be together regardless of appearance. Focusing on moral values, common faith, and shared interests is likely the best approach.
Avoid sexual temptation. Some Christians struggle with sexual purity due to emotional temptations. In Song of Solomon 1:16-17, the couple avoids physical contact to abstain from temptation and keep themselves out of risky situations:

You are so handsome, my love,
    pleasing beyond words!
The soft grass is our bed;
   fragrant cedar branches are the beams of our house,
    and pleasant smelling firs are the rafters.
Song of Solomon 1:16-17

Staying sexually pure during dating is very challenging. If you feel sexually tempted, it’s best to stop and leave for a while. You don’t have to explain why; just let them know you’ll call or text later.

Now you know 5 things about Christian dating. Maybe you have some friends or family relatives who is now dating, please feel free to share this article.

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