Three years ago, my husband and his best friend were fighting over their Facebook conversation. As the result of that, my husband angrily “unfriended” his best friend from his list. It hurt big time.
A month ago, we went to church and listened to the pastor at our church about forgiveness. The pastor spoke about letting go of the past. My husband realized that grudgingly holding onto the past was not worth it. He really missed his best friend and he loved him very much because they both had a great childhood friendship and they both shared their common lifestyles like muscle cars and lifted trucks. He recently talked with his best friend and solved the problem. and he finally “friended” his best friend again. He realized that humans are not always so perfect. In fact, my husband is the assistant pastor, he knows better, and he sometimes makes his mistakes, but he learns some lessons to accept the past and forgive and move on.
5 Ways To Forgive And Let Go Of The Past
- Accept the past. Some people have hard time to forgive and move on, because they may experience their fear feelings for the past. How about you? Do you think that you can possible accept the mistake and forgive yourself? If not, how cannot you move on and start anew? Advice: let’s think calmly, study, and mediate on your mistake until you finally accept and forgive yourself.
- Write a letter to yourself (or the trusted person). Some people mention that writing a letter to themselves would work better, because they say that once they write a letter to themselves and leave it alone without opening it for awhile or forever. It helps them to get out of the serious emotions, forgive themselves, and move on. And some people sometimes come back to find their own letters in 2 years or so, they open it themselves. They realize that reading a letter from themselves make them finally set themselves free. On the other hand, some people say that writing a letter to the trusted person would be nice idea, but be sure to tell the trusted person not to share your letter with other people as they need to keep it in private. Advice: writing a letter to yourself (or the trusted person) about your past would be great and start a new fresh life.
- Talk to yourself (or the trusted person). Interestingly, some people say that talking to themselves can be a little weird but, it is such a great idea, because they feel safe to talk to themselves alone rather than talking about their emotions with other people. However, some people choose to talk about their past with the trusted person, that’s okay. But, they make sure that their trusted person cannot share the past with others. So have you talked to yourself about the past? If not, how about talking to the trusted person? Does it help? Advice: Talking to yourself can be more safe than talking about your past with the trusted person, or you may talk to the trusted person about it unless you make sure that he or she does not share that with others from the outside.
- Rebuilding a new future. Some people rebuild a new future once, they can create their own boundaries for themselves in their lives. More importantly, they need to protect themselves and their lives because they do not want to repeat their past mistakes in their present lives, they want to move on and enjoy a new fresh life. Advice: let’s think how to rebuild a new one and set up your boundaries for yourself once.
- Let go of your past, forgive yourself, and move on. Some people experience to let of of their past and forgive themselves and other people. They just do not have to hold onto their past in their lives, because they know that holding onto the past would be wasted for many years in their lives. So what are they waiting for? It can be harmfully unhealthy. How about you? Advice: letting go of the past will set you free. Forgive yourself and other people you have wronged in the past would be also free, too. It help you moving on and looking forward to create a new future in your life.
Robin Rue (@massholemommy)
I have soooo much trouble letting go. I hold on to things forever.
One of the hardest and most importnat things to do – forgiveness.
All good ideas. Can’t move forward if we’re still attached to so much of our past.
It is hard to let go of the past. When you do it feels so better.
whether or not you decide to let someone back into your life should not impact your forgiving and letting go. i think sometimes people think that if they forgive someone it means they have to be friends again but i’ve learned to forgive people but also realize who is not a healthy relationship in my life
Letting go of past hurts is a tough one. When I forgave people who had harmed me though, I had so much more peace in life.
Shaylee @ Data Nerds
As emotional as I am I actually don’t have a big problem with letting go. I think holding a grudge against someone takes way too much effort and I’d like to focus my energy on something more positive. These are great tips though 🙂
Great tips! Not easy but totally doable if you try
You can’t move on from the past until you learn to accept it! Once you do, everything else will follow.
This is my area of expertise – I even have an entire section of my blog dedicated to it. It is not my issue at all – not any more. I know how to let go. 🙂
I have had so many health issues – I am pretty good at letting go – sad though it takes health issues o let it go
Ana De- Jesus
It is so important to let go of the past but it is easier said than done. I must learn to forgive and forget but I think I hold grudges now because I have been betrayed so many times.
I love this! It is so important to let go of the past so you can move into your future.
Sometimes people think forgiveness means forgetting bad behaviour and letting someone back into your life. Personally while I can let go of the resentment caused by certain acts and, therefore, forgive, somethings are so dreadful they cannot and should not be forgotten and it is best to remain out of contact with the perpetrator.
being part of life entitles you to know forgiveness and walk the path
Letting go became easier as I got older. I’ve learned that it’s really hard to move on unless you learn to forgive.
I love the idea of writing yourself a letter. It’s a great way to get everything out.