One of the most worst conversations that parents have with their teens is about sex. This have never been so easy for both parents and their teens. But, parents do not know how to get the conversation started with their teens.
As a Mother, I have two teenage sons. I feel that it’s time to start converse with them because they need to know about sex. I am a Christian and my two sons are also Christians. One of my sons told me that sex from outside of the marriage was practically okay. I disagreed with that, because I told him simply that it is not okay to have sex from outside of the marriage because it’s kind of sin and it’s against God’s Word. However, I do not want to give my two teen sons hard time because I do not want to be strictly preach heavily. If I preach them strictly, they can easily turn off our conversation about sex. More importantly, you show that you are willing to listen and answer what your teen wants to know the questions. Sex out of marriage is adultery (Hebrews 13:4), and God will judge all of us according to our sins. However, if we confess our sins, Jesus has already paid the price. It’s important to stand firm and know the facts as well. Use examples like STD’s and unwanted pregnancies as natural consequences for not following God’s law of practicing safe sex withing marriage. Sex is designed to be one man and woman within one marriage. If two people only have one partner, there is less chance for infection and unwanted consequences.
4 Tips To Talk With Your Teen About Sex
- Do not preach HEAVILY. Some Christian parents are now preaching their teens heavily with many biblical verses. It sounds very pressuring and overwhelming for teens. I am sure that some teens may not listen to what parents preach. I understand that parents are too worried that their teens may be deeply curious what to feel like that while having sex. You are the one who worry about that, too. You are not alone. Importantly, you need to trust the Lord. He will help you get conversation started with your teen about sex. He can give you better wisdom what to talk about sex. Don’t make your teen feeling pressured.
- Teens asking questions must be kept open. Teens have the right to know about sex. They want to know what to do with sex, it is okay to talk about sex when your teen is curious. Since you are parent of teen, you do your best to answer these questions for teens. You do not have to give lecture more deeply about sex. If you shut this topic off, how could your teen get some information from you, even though you are a parent? You know, sex education from schools are not very great because some teachers are not providing some information about safe sex. They are openly encouraging same sex relationships and intercourse as well, which is a sin according the bible.
- Be emotionally patient, comfortable, and understanding. Some Christian parents are upset that their teens lost their virginity because they are physically and emotionally curious or pressured by peers. Some parents feel a sense of failure because they did not have any chances to talk with their teens about sex. Nothing feels so shameful as to open this subject with teens. If that happens, the important thing is that you love your teen and you forgive him or her for that happening. Nobody’s perfect. We all are sinners here. Remember that the Lord is right here next to you.
- Provide the biblical resources. Since you are a Christian parent of a teen, you are responsible to teach your teen about sex and God’s Word. Your teen will understand why she or he needs to wait for the marriage because it’s God’s blessing.
I’ll give an encouraging note here – reading the bible and praying are the keys to live a life without sin. Nothing can strengthen your relationship with the Father. Without Jesus in your heart, you will never have peace.
tiaras & tantrums
These are all great tips. I agree with you, this is a hard chat to navigate with your tweens and teens.
Excellent tips for parents for anyone with children!
You just have to have an open mind and be understanding, you need to make sure they can trust you and feel comfortable with discussing such a topic!
Great article. I believe that it is sooo important to have an open honest relationship with your children so that at times like these when we need to discuss important concepts with them we can.
I think if you have an open, honest relationship from the start this will not be hard and I have done this myself and still have little ones too so it works for me.
These conversations with teens are hard, but totally necessary. Its the ones that don’t get “the talk” that get into trouble, and its even worse when hormones are raging and dating begins. That scares me, but all I can do is raise my boys right.
Robin Rue (@massholemommy)
Oh god, my son is 11 and I am dreading this in a few years. Thanks for the tips.
I have yet to experience this. Thank you for the wonderful insight. This would really help a lot when the time comes.
These are great tips for parents who are ready to have this conversation.
This is a touchy topic, but it’s our responsibility as parents to talk to our kids about sex. Your tips will be very helpful.
Open communication is always the best. Love it how you said teens have the right to know about sex. So many times I think people want to stifle others. Emotional patience and understanding is huge too. Going to bookmark this one for future reference.
Important messages to share with your kids.
Great tips .My son’s are young now, but I know that day will come soon enough.
Ahhhh thankfully my daughter is only 3 so I have a few more years before I have to deal with this dreaded convo lol
Yes, yes, yes. You can’t get all judge(y) and preachy with them. It will fall on deaf ears. They need to know that you respect their thoughts and value them.
Life as a Convert
I like these tips. I think that parents should answer their children’s questions about sex in an appropriate manner.
Not a parent yet, but these are definitely great tips to keep in mind!